Optimism

It is really nice if it is due to the good support around you, or any other pleasant reasons, helped you to become stronger, you would have grown stronger beautifully. Like happy strong.

I felt that my reasons do not fall in the 'pleasant' category, it is more of that i need to be stronger to be able to defend myself, to protect myself and to protect the things i want to protect, because nobody is going to do it for you. And i need to be self sufficient before I could extend to others. For this category, you may be strong but may not be happy. Think on the bright side, being able to grow stronger, isnt it good enough already? Not sure if this mindset is being plain optimistic or is just lowering of expectations and standards to reduce disappointment. oh well, regardless of which, it does make a person feel slightly better though the push factor isn't really good. 

There are too many disappointments in life, bad things and unpleasant people around us that can affect ourselves negatively, causing different kinds of harm in the situation, and also affect the personality of the affected person. Perhaps this is why some people change for the worse as they are pushed to bring out and develop some of the not-so-good qualities in order to 'survive' in those situations. In a long run, it will become their second natural and worst, twisted personality. Maybe this is why it is so important to surround yourself with good people and good things. 

Stand firm, know who you are, and keep a clear mind. 

Way to go Yihui!